MAFS: Second Chances- Episode 6: WTF
Things have gotten very interesting. David and Vanessa are narrowing down the crew, but I’m gonna be honest—I don’t think they’re making some of the best decisions. Last week, David shocked us all when he broke up with Jordan, and from there I really started to question his choices.
It’s hard to watch, honestly. David is such a genuine person, but it’s almost as if he can’t make the best decisions for his own love life. He knows how he feels, but is he being led by the wrong things? It’s not that uncommon—we all do it, so I’m not here to judge. But if David, as sweet as he is, wants to find his partner, he needs to understand what he should be looking for in her.
Ok. *steps off soapbox* Let’s begin with the breakups.
David knocks on Callie’s door and I’m not surprised, but I don’t think he gave her enough of a chance. Unfortunately, perception is reality and I think she ended up losing on that front. Last week I said she got caught up in being a mean girl and fluffed that apology-- but I’m inclined to think that she has a big heart and just a f**k it personality, that gets misunderstood frequently.
I can relate.
Vanessa breaks up with Ike. He’s an attractive man with nice qualities, but she couldn’t get into the fact that Ike wants to wait until marriage for sex. And while I understand the values he holds dear, I’m all about sampling the goods beforehand. The connection wasn’t strong enough to make Vanessa want to wait. So he had to go. Fair enough.
Let’s move on.
Vanessa meets with Dr. Pepper to discuss the connections she has with the guys. She let her know that David is someone who she thinks is mature with a good head on his shoulders, but needs him to open up more. Dr. P. tells Vanessa that because she has a firm foundation with the six guys left, it’s up to her to let them know that they can be vulnerable.
We skip over to our guy Dave who has had something interesting happen to him. One of his friends sends him a text to let him know that her ex is dating Brittany.
*sips tea*
Yes, that Brittany. Shorty who wore black leather boots and a sweater dress to the botanical garden date with David. I know that was a dig, but I’m feeling particularly petty today. Y’all already know David was stressed. He meets with Dr. Pepper to talk to her about what he found out and I’m not sure how he went from saying that Brittany is “dating a friend’s ex” to “she has a boyfriend” but that's what's he labeled it as. Granted the rules of this specific situation are that the girls are supposed to be here for him, but interestingly enough we already live in the kind of society where men can date whomever they want, but if a woman dates someone else, she’s automatically considered undateable. Tuh.
Dammit. How does my soapbox keep ending up over here?
Anyway, Dave takes the six girls on a group date to make BBQ sauce, and of course he’s going to have to address the “Brittany is in a whole entire relationship” situation. It’s very obvious that he’s tense and all the girls feel it. He decides to start the date by asking them if they’re dating anyone else.
They say no.
Me:
Girl, I get why you wouldn’t admit it in front of the group, but lying is going to get you booted.
So as the date goes on, Dave is on edge, the girls are on edge, and my edges are on edge. You can literally cut the tension with knife. Dave goes around and tastes all the girl’s bbq sauce and then asks if “anyone wants to say anything?” Sir, you’re asking people if they want to confess that they’ve been hiding the fact that they’re dating other people and it’s becoming hella awkward. Stop the shenanigans and just pull Brittany aside. He selects Salem for their one on one date. I really like her—her makeup is ALWAYS on point and her outfits are super cute, plus she’s never really been mixed up in the drama. Cool points all around.
Dave decides to pull Melika aside to discuss the fact that Brittany has a boyfriend.
Us:
Seriously, dude?
Why would you tell her about another girl in the group? That’s his mistake right there and it’s not the first time he’s done it. Keep that to yourself. Write it down in your journal. Call your homeboy. But telling one girl that you’re dating about another girl is not how this works.
Needless to say, Brittany gets the boot. Dave talks to her outside about her lying, and then asks her to leave.
On Vanessa’s group date, she makes Cheesecake with the guys. Hell, EYE would want to be on this date if I knew there’d be cake! Afterwards, Vanessa pulls up a round table type conversation and brings up cheating… Again. I get that it’s a sore spot for her, but sis, you have to let it go. The past is the past and both Dre and David—the only guys that admitted cheating-- aren’t those same guys anymore.
Chris is still here.
Why? I’m not sure. He’s a child, and he’s doing whatever he can to impress her. This isn’t about a double standard, but men normally mature slower than women, and he’s already barely legal. Yes, he’s cute, but where is his head at? She takes him on a one on one, to a “fancy restaurant” he orders something he can’t pronounce, and they find out that it’s fried pigs feet. He’s pretending to like snail to “win her heart” and honestly, I just can’t see what our girl Vanessa sees in him.
This is stressing me.
On David and Dre’s small group date with Vanessa, they talk more about physical contact and the importance of sex in a relationship. I’m proud of her for asking questions that would normally seem taboo, because we’re all adults here. She takes David on a one on one where they discuss him opening up more, having more emotion in his conversations, where he stands, and what their romantic chemistry is.
On David and Salem’s one on one, he learns that Salem hasn’t told her parents about dating him while he’s dating other women because it wouldn’t fly in her culture, and we see Dave become visibly annoyed. Honestly, he needs to relax, and understand that not everything will work on his time, and it’s not really fair to judge her on that. But Dave is also on edge because of everything that’s been happening so I get it, but I need him to pull it together.
David’s next private date is with Tara, and I actually really like them together. Since Jordan is no longer here, I’m now on #TeamTara because I like the fact that she’s mature and sweet and is a good match for him intellectually and personality wise. We’re rooting for you, girl!
On a second small group date with Myles, Chris, Zach and Zach’s shirt, Vanessa takes them to her old stomping grounds/ Alma Mater, Clark Atlanta University (One time for #HBCU love) and has them put on a talent show. Zach does this Love Jones-esque poetry, Myles sings and Chris just takes his shirt off and dances (I’m over him,) but she chooses Zach.
They discuss his careers, traveling, what his future looks like and what his main source of income is. He tells her that it’s acting, and all I hear is.
Finally, David’s small group is a bowling date where although he gets a chance to speak to Misha and interact with Salem, he still chooses Melika for the private date where they go shoot some pool.
Melika then randomly tells him that she doesn’t think they have nothing in common.
Us:
WE’VE KNOWN THIS!!!!
WE’VE BEEN KNOWN THIS!
We’ve been shouting at the TV for weeks now!
*woosah… rubs temples*
David, you have to get rid of her.
Breakup time--- Dave sent Brittany home earlier in the week so he doesn’t have to choose anyone else to stop dating, but he’s already been going through it. I think Vanessa is going to send Zach home because he has no coins, or David home because he’s as dry as the end of a Popeye’s biscuit.
Let me just say—this has probably been the most frustrating episode to watch to date, and my soapbox has been put to good use.
Friends-- see y’all next week.